Why ADHD Makes You Rethink Everything, and How to Stop Overanalysing
From decision spirals to clarity in a noisy brain…
You go to send an email… and suddenly, you’re rewriting it for the fourth time.
You need to choose a new calendar app… and spend three hours researching all of them.
You try to buy a toothbrush… but you’re still not sure which one to pick.
What’s happening?
This is ADHD overthinking, and it’s not about indecision.
It’s about how your brain processes information, risk, emotion, and detail all at once… and then gets stuck.
Let’s talk about why ADHD brains overanalyse everything, and how to stop spiralling before the decision fatigue takes over.
Why ADHD brains spiral so easily
Most people think ADHD = impulsive.
But many ADHDers are the opposite, hyper-cautious, perfectionistic, and constantly second-guessing.
That’s because ADHD often comes with:
Rejection sensitivity (aka the fear of getting it “wrong” and being judged)
Working memory struggles (so you can’t keep all the info in your head)
Emotional dysregulation (decisions feel bigger and more personal)
Time blindness (you can’t always feel how long you’ve been stuck thinking)
A history of shame or criticism, which makes you over-correct everything
It’s not that you’re dramatic.
It’s that your brain is trying to protect you, by thinking through every possible outcome before you act.
The ADHD Overthinking Cycle
Let’s break down what this often looks like:
You need to make a choice
You get hit with too many options (or no clear best one)
You start second-guessing what the “right” choice is
You delay deciding because it feels unsafe to choose wrong
You start feeling like a failure for not “just doing it”
You beat yourself up → spiral → shut down
That cycle isn’t a flaw.
It’s a coping mechanism, one that makes sense when your brain is used to feeling overwhelmed, behind, or judged.
But it can be softened.
ADHD Overthinking Triggers and Gentle Interruptions
| Trigger | What’s Going On | Gentle Reframe or Action |
|---|---|---|
| Too many choices | Dopamine depletion + executive dysfunction | Limit to 2–3 options only or ask someone to shortlist for you |
| Fear of choosing wrong | Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) | Remind yourself: “Any choice is better than no choice” |
| Trying to make the “perfect” decision | Perfectionism as protection | Use the phrase “good enough for now” to move forward |
| Worrying what others will think | Hyperawareness of external judgment | Name it, then ask: “Is this about me, or what I *assume* they’ll think?” |
What helps ADHD brains make decisions with less stress?
Here are some tools and mindset shifts that really do help:
1. Impose fake limits on your choices
If your brain stalls when faced with 12 options, pick 3.
Even better, have someone else give you a shortlist.
ADHDers often do better when options are pre-filtered.
2. Outsource the “what should I do?” loop
Ask someone:
“Can you help me pick between these 2?”
“What would you do if you were me?”
That tiny outside perspective can break the loop.
3. Use “safe to fail” testing
Instead of needing to make the perfect decision, ask:
“What’s the smallest version of this I can test?”
Try → Learn → Adjust
This works great for business owners, creatives, or even planning your day.
4. Create decision scripts ahead of time
Write out go-to default responses for when you’re tired or stuck.
Example:
“If I haven’t decided by 3pm, I’ll go with Option B.”
“If it’s under $50 and not urgent, I’ll wait 24 hours.”
“If I’ve overthought it for more than 30 minutes, I’ll ask someone.”
5. Rehearse: “Good enough is great.”
Perfectionism is usually fear in disguise.
Let “good enough for now” be your safety net, especially when your brain wants certainty before it moves.
Final reframe: Thinking deeply isn’t the problem, getting stuck is
You have a beautiful, reflective brain.
One that sees nuance. That cares. That wants to make thoughtful, intentional choices.
That’s not the problem.
The problem is when those thoughts turn into self-doubt spirals that freeze your momentum.
What if you didn’t need to be 100% sure to move forward?
What if most decisions aren’t permanent, just a starting point?
Want help making decisions feel lighter?
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